Thursday, March 11, 2010

We went to the beach and my friend took off her wet bathing suit in front of her boyfriend and my boyfriend.?

Her boyfriend won't call her any more and i won't speak to her any more.


That was bad wasn't it?We went to the beach and my friend took off her wet bathing suit in front of her boyfriend and my boyfriend.?
Ok, so you nor her boyfriend are speaking to her anymore, right? Is your boyfriend speaking to her? I'd suspect that is what she was after anyway. She had to know you and her boyfriend would be upset.We went to the beach and my friend took off her wet bathing suit in front of her boyfriend and my boyfriend.?
This is where America's weird puritanical values drives me nuts. It is ok to see all sorts of violence, but let someone be naked and it's an unforgivable crime.


Obviously, she was comfortable enough in the company of friends and her boyfriend that she thought nothing of taking off the bathing suit and drying off. No sense of unnecessary modesty there.


In most countries, nudity is not a taboo and is considered natural.


Maybe she should have thought about how you felt before she did it, but like I said, she obviously felt comfortable enough that she didn't think it would be an issue. She was wrong. maybe she will find friends and a new boyfriend that aren't so prudish in the future.
I think you are overreacting. maybe she doesn't think it is a big deal to change in front of friends. she could just be very open. guys and girls change in front of each other all the time. I have seen girls change, and my gf has seen guys change. it wasn't like ';omg you were just naked in front of me hehehehehehe';. so as far as that goes it is perfectly acceptable to be naked in front of your friends if you are changing. most people can't handle that i guess
Whether or not you all are in bathing suits dosen't matter, your still at least half nude. You wouldn't be wearing a swim suit or bikinni out in the city on the side walk now would you?





Those who think seeing each other in the nude are no better than animals - they probably believe we were once animals, therefore we should feel no problem in going back to our ';animal instincts';. This is a bunch of crap.





Keep your thighs covered up to your torso. This is for men and women. Except for husband and wife who can see everything else, and in privacy.
What she did wasn't proper, but I think you committed the more condemnable offense by not speaking to her because of it. Did she punch you in the face or sleep with your bf? No, she just got naked in front of you.





The only advice I'd give is to her: Good riddance..she doesn't need friends like you anyway.





Her boyfriend is also a grade-A fruit.
I can completely understand you being upset. The last thing you want your boyfriend to see is your friend w/o her bathing suit!





I am curious as to why your boyfriend got upset? I can't see any reason why he would care except that he's into her...or if you were upset and then that upset him?





I would talk to your friend and explain why you were upset and ask her blatantly why she did it and if she has feelings for your boyfriend. If she says no, then if you are good friends, trust her and ask her not to do it again. If her answer is sketchy or you don't believe her- then you don't need a friend like that. Your friends should respect the privacy of your relationship and should understand that us ';stuffy Americans'; don't appreciate when girls flaunt their bodies in front of our men!


Just my opinion.
To you this might seem unusual, but it might be perfectly normal to your friend. I know its a little different, but compare it to having someone at your house and them observing your behavior. Some of the things you do might be odd for them. If you do get in touch with her, make sure she understands that you'd prefer if she didn't, but don't make a big deal.
Why are you not talking to her? Maybe in her culture (or only in her own mind) there was nothing wrong with it, maybe in her home it's perfectly acceptable to be nude in front of others. It's a shame it affected everyone else so badly.
Obviously she has boundary issues or wants attention, didn't someone have a beach towel?





I've known people like that and unfortunately they were not ones you even wanted to see naked





she has issues, you did not over react
WTF?! There wasn't a changing room? That was totally disrespectful of your friend. I wouldn't have talked to her afterwards either. What a sl*t!
only in america would this even be an issue. americans are so stuffy about nudity.
Gads.....is she an idiot? You're better off without that kinda thing.
Some people have no modesty or common sense. What was she thinking?
Wow! Is she hot?

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